Now we all have heard this statement very often. Some of us understand it and others don't and yet we use it.
But the natural question that follows this statement is :
' Are soul mates the missing pieces of our incomplete personality?'
Why are all of us looking outside ourselves to fulfill the deficiency in our hearts.
I feel that most of the relationships in today's times are based on GIVE and TAKE. One partner gives what is superfluous and the other receives it and vice-versa. Hence we are constantly searching for our SOUL MATES, taking something from one incomplete person and giving something in exchange. Our personalities become a mosaic of impressions of others on our life . Hence in ourselves most of us in not ours, it belongs to all those people who have been a part of our life at one point or the other.
Once the need to take and give the superfluous portion vanishes, THE RELATIONSHIP DIES!
What is the fun in living a life (of which we get a solitary opportunity), which is manufactured in the assembly line of other people.
It is my life and I get only one chance to live it. So how do I live it?
I want to share a few basic principles which I follow most of the time while trying to do the best job at living.
I believe that everything in MY LIFE begins with ME. However, this does not mean that I become selfish and clamber over others to claim the loin's share of everything.
MY LIFE means my decisions regarding every big or small detail of my living.
I should be prepared to take my own decisions, own up responsibility for them and should applaud or reprimand myself (as the situation maybe).
There is a joy of a very different kind in living my own life. This is also the best way to live.My conscience always guides me towards my intrinsic desires. It is the COMPASS OF MY SOUL. So, I trust myself to take the right decision for myself. Any other person who is unacquainted with my soul will be clueless about my wishes, he/she cannot decide for me. I take the call and become the MASTER OF MY DESTINY.
How do I know if I made the RIGHT DECISION?
The answer to this question is simple:
Am I happy with what I have when the spinning wheel stops?
If yes, then I know I am on the right path. If I am happy most of the times with what I have, then I know I have developed the habit to take the RIGHT DECISIONS FOR MYSELF.
If I am not happy then I know that I faltered or chickened out while deciding. Now I either spoil my relations with someone, whose understanding I trusted to be suffice to solve a dilemma for me. Or, I am on the look out for someone to give vent to my frustration. In both the situations, I remain immature. Such a behaviour ensures that I am trapped in the vicious circle of BAD JUDGEMENT-DISAPPOINTMENT-IMMATURITY.
Suppose a decision that I took all by myself, turned out to be a foolish step; then what do I do?
I again take a different decision for myself, ALL BY MYSELF. Eventually, I shall hit the jack-pot and when I do; I would be all the more intelligent because of all the mistakes I MADE, ALL BY MYSELF.
This process of LIVING, DECIDING and LIVING : COMPLETES ME.
I become INDEPENDENT, FEARLESS and HAPPY; especially emotionally. Now I know WHAT I want from life, HOW to get it and then to RETAIN it.
I become COMPLETE or altleast I have started the process. A complete SOUL always SHINES, because it does not have the BLACK-HOLE of immaturity and purposeless living.
Once I become a COMPLETE PERSON, then only can I attract the right person towards myself. The one who will not take from me because he is already like me : COMPLETE. The LOVE will be UNCONDITIONAL and not based on some temporary REQUIREMENT. Such a relationship will only continue to grow stronger with time and stand all the tests of time.
The UNION of TWO COMPLETE SOULS is like a symphony when life becomes a melody unmarred by the cacophony of give and take.
So, please think a lot before saying that your SOUL MATE COMPLETES YOU; because he/she may not be the right person for you at that time. Even you may not be emotionally intelligent enough to be in a relationship.
Always say and believe: MY SOUL MATE COMPLIMENTS ME and SO DO I!
But the natural question that follows this statement is :
' Are soul mates the missing pieces of our incomplete personality?'
Why are all of us looking outside ourselves to fulfill the deficiency in our hearts.
I feel that most of the relationships in today's times are based on GIVE and TAKE. One partner gives what is superfluous and the other receives it and vice-versa. Hence we are constantly searching for our SOUL MATES, taking something from one incomplete person and giving something in exchange. Our personalities become a mosaic of impressions of others on our life . Hence in ourselves most of us in not ours, it belongs to all those people who have been a part of our life at one point or the other.
Once the need to take and give the superfluous portion vanishes, THE RELATIONSHIP DIES!
What is the fun in living a life (of which we get a solitary opportunity), which is manufactured in the assembly line of other people.
It is my life and I get only one chance to live it. So how do I live it?
I want to share a few basic principles which I follow most of the time while trying to do the best job at living.
I believe that everything in MY LIFE begins with ME. However, this does not mean that I become selfish and clamber over others to claim the loin's share of everything.
MY LIFE means my decisions regarding every big or small detail of my living.
I should be prepared to take my own decisions, own up responsibility for them and should applaud or reprimand myself (as the situation maybe).
There is a joy of a very different kind in living my own life. This is also the best way to live.My conscience always guides me towards my intrinsic desires. It is the COMPASS OF MY SOUL. So, I trust myself to take the right decision for myself. Any other person who is unacquainted with my soul will be clueless about my wishes, he/she cannot decide for me. I take the call and become the MASTER OF MY DESTINY.
How do I know if I made the RIGHT DECISION?
The answer to this question is simple:
Am I happy with what I have when the spinning wheel stops?
If yes, then I know I am on the right path. If I am happy most of the times with what I have, then I know I have developed the habit to take the RIGHT DECISIONS FOR MYSELF.
If I am not happy then I know that I faltered or chickened out while deciding. Now I either spoil my relations with someone, whose understanding I trusted to be suffice to solve a dilemma for me. Or, I am on the look out for someone to give vent to my frustration. In both the situations, I remain immature. Such a behaviour ensures that I am trapped in the vicious circle of BAD JUDGEMENT-DISAPPOINTMENT-IMMATURITY.
Suppose a decision that I took all by myself, turned out to be a foolish step; then what do I do?
I again take a different decision for myself, ALL BY MYSELF. Eventually, I shall hit the jack-pot and when I do; I would be all the more intelligent because of all the mistakes I MADE, ALL BY MYSELF.
This process of LIVING, DECIDING and LIVING : COMPLETES ME.
I become INDEPENDENT, FEARLESS and HAPPY; especially emotionally. Now I know WHAT I want from life, HOW to get it and then to RETAIN it.
I become COMPLETE or altleast I have started the process. A complete SOUL always SHINES, because it does not have the BLACK-HOLE of immaturity and purposeless living.
Once I become a COMPLETE PERSON, then only can I attract the right person towards myself. The one who will not take from me because he is already like me : COMPLETE. The LOVE will be UNCONDITIONAL and not based on some temporary REQUIREMENT. Such a relationship will only continue to grow stronger with time and stand all the tests of time.
The UNION of TWO COMPLETE SOULS is like a symphony when life becomes a melody unmarred by the cacophony of give and take.
So, please think a lot before saying that your SOUL MATE COMPLETES YOU; because he/she may not be the right person for you at that time. Even you may not be emotionally intelligent enough to be in a relationship.
Always say and believe: MY SOUL MATE COMPLIMENTS ME and SO DO I!
"The UNION of TWO COMPLETE SOULS is like a symphony when life becomes a melody unmarred by the cacophony of give and take." is a great line, Suditi. This is a marvellous post.
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