Not Every Relation Has a Name

The trend promoted by the social networking sites to classify the people in your life into relations......I just do not get it!

An individual's life is engraved with myriad experiences that he/she has with so many people in his/her life.
I somehow find it impossible to introduce any XYZ as my friend. I cannot even call them an acquaintance on their face(very rude!).

So why do I need to assign a tag to everyone I know or recognise? I cannot tag the lady traffic police controller who helps me park every time I visit a library in my city. She is certainly not my family, my friend or even an acquaintance for that matter. I do not know her name. I am always far away from her to read her name on her name plate. Yet she is always there when I need her.

Not every relationship in life is need-based too! I do not have the time to maintain my old friendships and mind you there are just four! So why do I make a new friend? May be I am enriched by the interactions with him/her. May be I cherish the company and do not want to miss out on having a like-minded friend.

What about the relationships that are need-based and named? Are they less important? No, I feel that such relations are the building blocks of our lives. They are a legacy, a tradition. This alone certifies their significance. To have an anchor in our family makes us the social animals that we are.

However I can digress from the tagging done to the relations and call my partner my best friend, my daughter my mother and my staff my weatherman!

I simply refuse to classify and answer for every relation in my life. Because from where I see them, all of them are associations between two similar souls.  

I LOVE LOVE

It is that time of the year again......So much of mush, clouds oozing Love and the light scented Breeze...? Well, all these are getting just too much for me!

I am yearning to be a teenager again and feel the virgin pangs of LOVE!

I want to dive into the vortex of emotions where all sense loses meaning and purpose. Let me be a fool in love, may be just for this blog!

I feel that rush in my bosom when my eyes meet his for the first time. It is instant, the way our bodies tilt to each other even when we are not talking to each other; even when we are standing in a group. An invisible thread tethers us.

The first meeting has taken place, the numbers have been exchanged, the words have flirted and the looks have spoken the unsaid........

Now the wait begins for that call or that message that lets me know that I am still in his thoughts somewhere.
And Voila! As if the Universe has answered my prayers.....He calls and wants to meet me, on some pretext of course. Because he too knows, although he has me wound around his finger, yet he has not claimed my heart and declared his love.

This whole game of being wooed and pursued leaves me with a million butterflies in my stomach. I walk, talk and appear in an eternal trance.

I get ready to meet him, trying to look my best. I flutter my eyes and giggle a notch higher just so that, I can illicit the words of love from his lips.Our eyes meet for a second and there is Love.

We steal glances at each other, our finger tips touch while exchanging books and my heart skips a beat! The whiff of moist air is laden with his scent and his physical being just a few hand-widths away push me deeper into his spell !

Oh! My heart is going to explode into smithereens and each bit will crave him, call out to him and love him!

We talk to fill up the silence and leave awkwardly after a rushed rendezvous.

The wait begins yet again to meet the love ......

I love this feeling of helpless bliss, I LOVE LOVE!!!

MY SOUL MATE COMPLETES ME!

Now we all have heard this statement very often. Some of us understand it and others don't and yet we use it.

But the natural question that follows this statement is :
' Are soul mates the missing pieces of our incomplete personality?'

Why are all of us looking outside ourselves to fulfill the deficiency in our hearts.

I feel that most of the relationships in today's times are based on GIVE and TAKE. One partner gives what is superfluous and the other receives it and vice-versa. Hence we are constantly searching for our SOUL MATES, taking something from one incomplete person and giving something in exchange. Our personalities become a mosaic of impressions of others on our life . Hence in ourselves most of us in not ours, it belongs to all those people who have been a part of our life at one point or the other.

Once the need to take and give the superfluous portion vanishes, THE RELATIONSHIP DIES!

What is the fun in living a life (of which we get a solitary opportunity), which is manufactured in the assembly line of other people.

It is my life and I get only one chance to live it. So how do I live it?

I want to share a few basic principles which I follow most of the time while trying to do the best job at living.

I believe that everything in MY LIFE begins with ME. However, this does not mean that I become selfish and clamber over others to claim the loin's share of everything.

MY LIFE means my decisions regarding every big or small detail of my living.

I should be prepared to take my own decisions, own up responsibility for them and should applaud or reprimand myself (as the situation maybe).

There is a joy of a very different kind in living my own life. This is also the best way to live.My conscience always guides me towards my intrinsic desires. It is the COMPASS OF MY SOUL. So, I trust myself to take the right decision for myself. Any other person who is unacquainted with my soul will be clueless about my wishes, he/she cannot decide for me. I take the call and become the MASTER OF MY DESTINY.

How do I know if I made the RIGHT DECISION?

The answer to this question is simple:

Am I happy with what I have when the spinning wheel stops?

If yes, then I know I am on the right path. If I am happy most of the times with what I have, then I know I have developed the habit to take the RIGHT DECISIONS FOR MYSELF.

If I am not happy then I know that I faltered or chickened out while deciding. Now I either spoil my relations with someone, whose understanding I trusted to be suffice to solve a dilemma for me. Or, I am on the look out for someone to give vent to my frustration. In both the situations, I remain immature. Such a behaviour ensures that I am trapped in the vicious circle of BAD JUDGEMENT-DISAPPOINTMENT-IMMATURITY.

Suppose a decision that I took all by myself, turned out to be a foolish step; then what do I do?

I again take a different decision for myself, ALL BY MYSELF. Eventually, I shall hit the jack-pot and when I do; I would be all the more intelligent because of all the mistakes I MADE, ALL BY MYSELF.

This process of LIVING, DECIDING and LIVING : COMPLETES ME.
I become INDEPENDENT, FEARLESS and HAPPY; especially emotionally. Now I know WHAT I want from life, HOW to get it and then to RETAIN it.

I become COMPLETE or altleast I have started the process. A complete SOUL always SHINES, because it does not have the BLACK-HOLE of immaturity and purposeless living.

Once I become a COMPLETE PERSON, then only can I attract the right person towards myself. The one who will not take from me because he is already like me : COMPLETE. The LOVE will be UNCONDITIONAL and not based on some temporary REQUIREMENT. Such a relationship will only continue to grow stronger with time and stand all the tests of time.

The UNION of TWO COMPLETE SOULS is like a symphony when life becomes a melody unmarred by the cacophony of give and take.

So, please think a lot before saying that your SOUL MATE COMPLETES YOU; because he/she may not be the right person for you at that time. Even you may not be emotionally intelligent enough to be in a relationship.

Always say and believe: MY SOUL MATE COMPLIMENTS ME and SO DO I!

WE HAVE COMPETITION!

We(The Academy) is a now a validated PIONEER!

Yesterday was again a day full of surprises that could have been SHOCKS or upheavals...
but my POSITIVE THINKING unleashed its magic, yet again!

It is a few days short of a year when I opened my Academy and a few months later my partner joined me, and the academy became our labour of love and passion.

We were told that it was financial suicide, to which we replied that earning money never was and never will be a priority by God's grace and by the grace of the hard-work of our loving husbands.

We were told that no students would reach such an interior location but those who had an unending thirst for knowledge reached us from Ajmer, Jallandhar, Uttrakhand and even Scotland!

We were then told that we would remain good enough only to teach the locals but then we got to work with the best of the intellectual minds of the local university and college.

We were then told that we would not survive the competition but then because of us a few tuition classes at home sprung up and eventually closed.

And now we have another Academy like ours (similar in name and courses) opening in our vicinity.

I say to them:

WELCOME ABOARD!

Such a motivation to our work was required. My partner and I are all revved up to outdo the competition.
All the doubts which were harboured by others regarding our choice of work, location and  courses have been quelled.

We were the ones to recognise the untapped market, create awareness about the education being offered by us and now we stand validated.

It would be great to have company and learn from competition!

CAN DO-HAVE DONE

Now what I am actually not trying to do here is DISCOURSE you all on how to live your life....!

I am just recounting here with an intention to share my experiences with life, of life and in life.

IT WORKS! emphasizes the principle of positivity endorsed by numerous books of our times. Period.


Today again I began my day with a "CAN DO-HAVE DONE" attitude....

I faced a major obstacle the first thing in the morning. Another PR firm gave a lame excuse to not to do publicity for our(my partner Prachi and mine) Academy. I was dejected because this had happened the second time within a week.

They probably saw us as a small fry not capable enough of affording their services.

Never mind, I thought and actually took a U-turn to my home and started afresh with a clean slate of mind.

The missed bus was actually a blessing in disguise. I did my research and with the help of a bunch of our well-wishers we are back on track again.

We at the academy have come up with a very methodical and fool-proof plan to promote the academy. We know in sometime we will not be able to do all this on our own but then we shall hire people who would be falling over each other to work with us.

The PR firms can go take a hike!!

So there is always something good to be borne out of every bump and every pit on the road. It catapults us to greater dimensions.

Not DISCOURSING just SHARING!!

IT WORKS!

Yesterday I thought to begin my today with a sense of fulfillment and today I end with the sense of achievement!

It really works..............!
                                           POSITIVE THINKING!!
I really am that girl today who has had her wishes granted just because I trusted the DIVINE machinery to spin its wheel of fortune and drop in my lap,
                                            my DREAMS.

Positive thinking does go a long way in making achievers out of ordinary individuals like me.
There are certain basic tenets of POSITIVE THINKING:

Believe in yourself
Believe that you already have that, which you desire
Act on the next step to your achievement
Never ask the Almighty for what you DO NOT have
Thank HIM instead for having already given it you

It works believe you me....!

The Universe does conspire to grant you whatever you most passionately seek.

Please share with me your experiences of whatever Thought Belief Action and Reality you have had. It would make an interesting read.

WHY CAN'T I BE THAT GIRL?

Why can't I be that girl who has all her dreams fulfilled?
Why can't I be that girl who can change lives?
Well just my OWN life for that matter...
Why can't I be the master....... No! LADY of my Destiny?
What is prohibiting me from living my own LIFE?

Are they the people in my life?
Or their mindset maybe..
Why am I constantly being cartoned in a box of ANSWERABILITIES?
Why are so many chores my EXCLUSIVE KRAs(Key Responsibility Areas)?

I guess my HEED to others and their words is stopping me.
I have to find a way to live my LIFE
'cause it's the ONLY ONE I have for NOW!

Go ahead and LIVE YOUR LIFE!